We’re going to dive into today how you can discipline (CRUSH) your disappointments to progress faster and further than you ever thought possible. But first, let’s establish a bit about it, then we will move into the meatier stuff.
Disappointments are inevitable. They are an unfortunate part of life that we must deal with, and swiftly if we are to move past and achieve a better version of ourselves.
What is disappointment though really? It actually originates as a response to an external condition, often times when expectations aren’t met or needs aren’t fulfilled. At it’s very essence, disappointment is a tendency to focus on the problem or where things went wrong. Naturally, dwelling in this way places the emphasis on the past instead of the future. Your mental energy becomes consumed with what could have been instead of what is and what could be.
At it’s very essence, disappointment is a tendency to focus on the problem or where things went wrong.
Everyone must endure disappointments. It’s not relegated to a certain class or segment of the population: it’s inherent to the human race! So what sets apart really successful people from unsuccessful people in this regard? Much of it has to do with how they respond to disappointment. There are countless quotes out there, but chief among them would for me would be guidance found in the Bible. Specifically Proverbs or Psalms.
Now that we know more about disappointment, I’ll get to the meatier stuff.
2 Ways to Overcome Disappointment (and one bonus)
This one sounds easy, but it can actually be rather difficult at times. How come? Much of it has to do with our desire to hold onto things – past hurts, dwelling on negative outcomes, and ultimately bitterness. Bitterness is the strongest of poisons and the biggest of boulders. The longer you hold onto your hurt, over time, it will change you, lock you up, and make you a prisoner to the thought of your own shortcoming – read: something in the PAST.
Forgiveness, however, is freedom. It’s acceptance that you can not change the past, and that you have the power to impact the way things go in the future. Whether you’re forgiving yourself, another person, or both, forgiveness represents the releasing of a selfish feeling that you are holding on to. Not only does it liberate you emotionally, but there are many other implications spiritually, socially, and mentally. It is all around a very good thing!
Forgiveness, however, is freedom. It’s acceptance that you can not change the past, and that you have the power to impact the way things go in the future.
True objective examination of one’s self is not the easiest of tasks. Truth be told, it is typically others who have the clearest view of who we are as individuals. How do we combat a totally skewed perception?
For one, it takes brute force honesty. That’s a tough one for many people because it means admitting you may not be all you think you are in a specific area of your life. But how did you get to where you are in the first place? It’s likely the result of formed habits or character traits from over the years. Yet if you’re looking to conquer that disappointment, you must be willing do take an honest look inside.
Truth be told, it is typically others who have the clearest view of who we are as individuals.
This is something the most successful people do very well, and it often ties directly into being coachable. I talk about this a lot in person. But if you can never admit you’re in need of help, then you will never progress, it’s that simple.
Another way to put it, the moment you think you have it all wired, you are likely going backward. No one ever has life down perfectly. Only Jesus was able to accomplish that.
The third bonus trait here would have to be humility. Just because you achieve success does not mean you are above anyone, and likewise if you are in a low place, that does not equate to being worth less. This should come as a result of the first two points and stick with you through your journey of success.
Remember, you are great because of God. “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13 Now get out there and crush your disappointments, conquer the fears, and begin massive growth in yourself to start helping others and transforming lives. I believe in YOU!